When it comes to dating and relationships, I’ve found myself at one point or another, on polar ends of the spectrum. From living recklessly as a young single woman to dating with the intention of marriage. I feel as though I’ve experienced it all, even though I know that I haven’t. Though it hasn’t been the easiest of journeys, I wouldn’t trade my experience for anyone else’s. I know that everything I’ve been through, and all that I’ve yet to go through are preparing me for him. The one worth waiting for.
Let me first say, that in no way do I claim to be an expert when it comes to these things. If we were to sit down and chat over coffee (or more realistically, hot chocolate because I don’t drink coffee) about the guys I’ve dated, it wouldn’t take fifteen minutes before you realized just how much of an amateur I am in the dating world. That being said, amidst the chaos of my so called “dating life” I’ve learned that if you insist on finding the one, you’ll surely find someone, but it won’t be him.
“It’s better to wait for God’s one, rather than choose the wrong one”
Wanting to rush the process
I get it. I’ve been there. We’re human, and most of us desire to be with someone that we can share our life with. We dream of the day when there’s someone to walk down the aisle towards, to come home to, to cook for and have babies with. Someone whose love will continue to brighten your day, even as your body begins to fade. Someone who will hold your hand until the very end as you cross over into eternity. Ok, I was totally picturing that scene in The Notebook just then, but you get my point. (Side note: not everyone is called to be married but that’s a topic for another time)
Regardless of whether you want to wait or not, you can’t rush God’s perfect timing. Trust me, I’ve tried. And don’t waste your time worrying about when it will happen either. Instead, take full advantage of this season in your life. If you’ve been around the blog for any length of time, I’m sure you can guess what I’m about to say next. Now is the time to prepare yourself for marriage by embracing the #SingleWifeLife. I would also encourage you to be open with God; bringing your concerns to Him in prayer (Philippians 4:6-7).
When in waiting
Now for an action step, because it’s great to read all of this but it’s even better when you can put it into practice. So, what does it practically look like to be waiting for the one God has for you? Well, I can tell you that it shouldn’t look like you’re waiting. What I mean by that is, you shouldn’t be sitting around anticipating the arrival of some handsome man on a horse to sweep you off your feet. You should be doing whatever it is that God has for you to do. Whether that’s serving at your local church, spending time with your family, volunteering at the hospital or finishing your master’s degree.
Waiting doesn’t mean that your life is on pause.
Most importantly, as you wait for him, you should be praying for him. This is normally when people start to look at me funny, but it’s true. I strongly believe that praying for your future husband should be a regular part of your prayer life. Personally, I’ve been praying for him for a few years now. I have no idea who he is or where he is, but I trust that he is out there. In praying for him, I’m often reminded of what’s really important in life and in relationships. It serves as a unique opportunity to lay the foundation for my future marriage and is a time of reflection, as I measure myself up against the characteristics that I want to have as a wife.
Waiting for the one God has for you is far from easy. Especially when there are so many other options out there. But as you begin to fix your eyes on Christ and focus on what He has for you to do in this season, the more you’ll begin to believe that he, whoever he may be, truly is worth waiting for.